The tone of voice is the issue, not the 'please,'.
Sally, put on your green jacket or your blue sweater, please.
The issue is, you have to build the behavior gradually, that's the critical part. ... Practice, repeat it, practice.
It's the strategic praise that changes behavior when used in a way that follows [the] behavior immediately.
The problem with 'defiance' is that it puts something in the child.
